Follow your curiosity
Notice the grip—not a test of toughness.
Tannin can feel drying or gripping around your mouth. Cabernet Sauvignon is a useful example to explore, although individual bottles vary.
You do not have to learn to enjoy a strong drying sensation. Describing it gives a wine professional a useful clue for suggesting another style.
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Try the wine with food if you are curious, and compare your reaction. Avoid treating every Cabernet as identical or assuming that a wine with less tannin is less interesting.